Stop comparing yourself to others!

Do you ever find yourself scrolling through your social media and thinking to yourself “WOW’, they have it all and seem so happy? Have you ever seen yourself being envious and comparing your life and what you have with someone else’s? I have found myself doing this more often than I care to admit. Especially now, when we are trying to fall pregnant. I look at everyone with their babies, toddlers and kids and allow myself to feel less worthy. I have also found myself thinking that I would somehow be happier and more complete if I had this little human to fill my life with love.

Everyone has their own sh!t to deal with

I am fast learning that everyone has their own sh!t to deal with. Some just hide it better than others. So many people have curated a public and social media version of themselves and the lives they live. As the saying goes all that glitters is not gold, so this is not necessarily their true reality.

The mind can be a playground for unnecessary thoughts.  What we end up doing is, feeling sorry for ourselves and for our lives. We start wanting more than what we have, we want what everyone seems to have. This leads to us constantly chasing something better, a higher paying job, a thinner body, the grand island holiday, name brand clothing, the big house, the fancy car, two kids and a white picket fence. We do this without realizing that our journeys and life experiences are different.

Some of us…

Some of us are making millions and others are barely making through the month.

Some of us are single and waiting for love, others are single by choice.

Some of us are married happily, and others are married and struggling to make it work.

Some of us have kids within the first year of marriage and fall pregnant so easily. Others have kids later in life and experienced challenges when trying to conceive, and then others don’t have kids at all.

No matter what you are going through or how long you take to get there, it’s okay. It’s your journey in life, and this should not be compared to anyone else’s.

Stay in your lane

Stay in your lane and live YOUR LIFE within your own time zone. Work hard, don’t give up, your time will come. Remember that behind everyone’s perceived success is a journey that needed to be taken. Maybe you on the scenic route or maybe your map is bringing you down a path with lessons that you need to learn in order to grow.

Appreciate what you have. Big and small celebrate your own successes.

Be happy for the friend that bought a mansion, be excited of your neighbour that has a new car, cheer on the cousin that is starting a business, sent blessings to the friends and family having babies. That’s where they are at this moment, good for them. Celebrate in their joys and successes. Your time will come.

Enjoy the unpredictability of life, get up and do better than you did yesterday. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday. I think that’s a comparison worth making.

Use comparison to become a better person. Compare yourself to the men and women out there that are kind, generous and caring. Aspire to be more like those people that are out their changing lives and doing good. Instead of feeling bad for yourself, and being self-judgmental, use this as a motivator to be better and do better.

Who knows maybe people are comparing themselves to you? There is no one better than you neither is there someone lesser than you. We all just figuring it out and getting through life at our own pace.