Do more of what you love when trying to conceive

Who knew trying to make a little human could be so tricky.  For some people, it seems to come so quickly, and for others like myself, it is so challenging. You need to do more of what you love when trying to conceive

Mixed emotions

Every month is a mixed back of emotions. It starts with the dreaded period, which is bittersweet. Sweet because at least your cycle is regulating, bitter because well it is a sure sign that you are not pregnant. Its almost as if life is mocking you and saying just in case you still wondering you are definitely not pregnant. This breaks your heart into a million pieces. Every month the disappointment grows more intense and the pain becomes more overwhelming.

The days to come are filled with self-blame, and you think to yourself maybe I could have done better last month, ate healthier, taken more vitamins, exercised frequently or meditated longer? When the disappointment fades new hope seeps in. It is a new month, and this is going to be the month that I am going to conceive!

You start the cycle again, with vitamins, eating foods that boost your fertility, having no more than two glasses of wine. Along with this you start the cycle of mental fatigue and focusing all of energy into trying to conceive. The remainder of the days after your period is spent playing the “ovulation detective” that is secretly investigating the state of your bodies’ cervical mucus in search of the next fertile window.

When you start to ovulate, you are putting pressure on yourself and on your partner to do what needs to be done. This is followed by the dreaded two-week wait! Our imaginations go wild, phantom symptoms are felt throughout the body. Before you know it you back in this distressing pattern of trying to conceive.

You need to do more of what you love when trying to conceive

Break the pattern! Enjoy your life! You are not doing anyone any good by living in the self-created frenzy. Stop, smell the flowers, breath, take a moment and JUST BE. The pressure that you are creating for yourself and your relationship is in no way benefitting your situation.  I believe that YOU need TO DO YOU, and the rest will fall into place when the time is right.

I am in no way saying don’t track ovulation or don’t eat healthily, but I am strongly suggesting that you not spend every day of each month focusing all of your energy on when you are going ovulate. I am suggesting that you do more of what you love, have a glass of wine, read a book, and DO YOU.

Stop

I know that it is easier said than done. But I realised that the time has come for me to just STOP! I decided that instead of making this a stressful, overwhelming experience, I am going to enjoy the journey because, from my mouth to god’s ears, when I do fall pregnant, and baby comes, life will change, and I will no longer have the time that I have now to do me. Choose calm and let go of fears and anxiety. Be gentle with yourself, be kind to you and Do more of what you love.